Yesterday morning I took 30 minutes at the beginning of my day and sat in silence listening to at least 4 different types of birds chirping, including my favorite, the mourning dove. I could hear the trickle of some water running somewhere fairly near, the leaves rustling in the  slight breeze,  and a little animal scampering along the pavement. This not my normal routine and I often find it difficult to just ‘sit’ for any length of time. Always something to do!

Certainly the idea is not a novel one to me but I have been doing some reading on the benefits of ‘first morning silence’. Noise is abundant in our lives everyday from dawn to dusk…….T.V.’s, I Pads, I Pods, phones, emails,  text messages, Facebook, Instagram, and many other things that clutter our immediate world. It can almost be overwhelming. This seems to be especially so when you are trying to think something through or you are experiencing ‘burnout’….of something or everything!

Here are the eight benefits of silence and solitude as quoted in Outreach magazine, written by Charles Stone (July 26, 2018, the senior Pastor of West Park Church in London, Ontario, Canada and  the founder of StoneWell Ministries).

  • “It breaks the power of hurry, our addiction to a ‘have-to-do-this’ mentality.
  • It helps renew our souls.
  • It reminds us that life will still go on without us.
  • It clears the storm of life and mind for wise decision – making and planning.
  • It creates inner space to hear the voice of God.
  • It allows us to disconnect from the world and deeply connect with our soul.
  • It helps us control our tongue.
  • It helps us with the other disciplines.”

At the end of my first 30 minute trial, I felt a  calm sense of well – being. It will become a new part of my morning routine. It is most definitely worth letting go of those 30 minutes. More to come……..







Spring is a wonderful time of the year and brings with it that renewed commitment to purge our house, deep clean, organize, lose the last few pounds and get outside! For me, the beginning of spring sparks these for sure, but it also triggers reflection for me. It was during a spring that I lost two of the most important people in my life. In some ways, it seems like yesterday, and yet somehow it feels like a very long, long time.

As I told a recent widow that I just happened to meet on the path of life, grief never really leaves, but it changes multiple times over the years and you will grow with it. It is a process and you can design the process however you wish.  You can try to hang on tight to every memory, or you can slowly let go and savor in your heart of archives the most salient memories…… the ones that make you smile, the ones that are super special moments of fun, the ones that help you to breathe in new life, the ones that are ‘aha’ moments that now make sense, and save a few that you are just not ready to let go of. You will go back time and time again over the years and review what you will keep. The others you will put in a box, seal it, and let it go. With that letting go, I have found a new sense of peace and in many ways a new outlook on life. It is a process that you live with, in and through until you find your core strength and center again. And you will!

This quote comes from John Green, The Fault in Our Stars, “Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.”

What will you find during this process as ‘you’ are revealed?




Today, Ash Wednesday, marks the beginning of lent for many Christians around the world. It is a season of 40 days for penance, fasting and giving. It is a  time for reflection and searching one’s inner being for faith-based improvement and giving to others.

A few days prior to the beginning of Lent each year,  I find myself in search of to ‘give up and/or to give to’. In my more mature years, I have come to believe that both are very important. Not only do I need to ‘give up certain things, but I also need to give to’.  My give up  this year is about stopping my conversation around specific events in my life.  This conversation really serves no greater purpose in my life or anyone else’s. So, I’m giving up that ‘talk’.

As for ‘giving to’, I am determining what charitable contribution, even though it may be small, might best benefit others in my community. Perhaps, it will be to a shelter in the area or another entity that serves those in need.

As a young person many years ago, it was deemed that ‘giving up’ was best practice  for Lent.   Growth in both my faith and in my life have helped me to understand that ‘giving to’ can be equally as important and looked upon favorably.

Blessings to each of you during this Lenten season.






I believe that this is an appropriate  post for the day……

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy; It does not boast; It is not proud. It does not dishonor others; It is not self-seeking; It is not easily angered; It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. LOVE NEVER FAILS.”


After this quote from the Bible, my favorite quote is from Leo Buscaglia:

“What love we’ve given, we’ll have forever. What love we fail to give, will be lost for all eternity.”

May you each have not only a loved filled day, but a love filled life with PURPOSE, JOY AND POSITIVES.




I took this picture of one of the snow sculptures at a recent Winter Fest in our town  and it brought to mind winter blues. Those feelings of ‘ugh, another dreary cold day’ or ‘no sunshine again’ or  ‘I am tired of winter’. Unless you live in the land of eternal sunshine (most days),  as many as six percent of the population (four times more common in women than in men) experience Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and another 14% of the adult population live with what is known as winter blues, a milder form of SAD.

I will admit, I experience winter blues some days and I am always thinking about ways to combat those feelings that could start out with ‘I don’t really want to do anything today’ kind of feeling.  Multiple authors write  that these feelings may be triggered by a lack of sunlight, as well as a possible genetic predisposition to these symptoms.  So in thinking about ways to work through these feelings……….

  • Plan a positive experience for myself a few days a week.
  • Get outside for a walk, even if it is a short walk, as this will release those endorphins in the brain (neurochemicals that boost mental health).
  • Eat more organic Vitamin D – rich foods, such as mushrooms and seafood.
  • Give myself some very specific tasks to accomplish in the week (I write them down).
  • Watch a comedy movie (laughing also releases endorphins).
  • Strategically plan my garden for spring (even ordering a few plants or seeds).
  • Think about what type of vacation I would like to plan to take.

Popular articles also discuss options of increasing Vitamin D intake through supplements and the use of Light Therapy. Obviously, if either of these are your choice of action, you need to consult your doctor first.

Anne Bradstreet, a poet, said “If we had no winter the spring would not be so pleasant.” I do believe that hope springs eternal in that this winter too shall pass.  I WILL smell the freshness of early spring flowers and budding trees!




Just to bring you up to date from the Midwest in case you missed the news……..It is bitterly cold and we have feet, not inches, of snow!!! Schools have been closed twice in the last week and no doubt they will be tomorrow,  due to the deep freeze.

I am not a winter person, but there was a certain beauty and magic as the snow lightly fell yesterday and I was trouncing through the snow with two of my grandkids to get to the top of a little hill so they could sled down it. I stood up at the top of the hill, looked up, took a couple of deep breaths, let the snow fall on my face and held my arms out to the universe. It was an awesome experience. It somehow felt calming and that all was right in my corner of the world.

Here are some other ideas for creating CALM in the middle of a storm.

  • Try to keep your perspective and think POSITIVE because this too shall pass
  • Give your self a time to step back and reflect or a 5 minute meditation
  • Think about only the things you CAN control; let go of what is out of your control
  • Keep the parts of your daily routine that will work during the storm; let go of the routines that are overwhelming or simply will not work
  • Don’t try to multitask in this storm; just do the necessary and get through it
  • Last, but certainly not least, give yourself a break; go easy on your expectations of yourself and those around you until things settle down
  • Be patient with yourself, breathe deeply and smile

“This too shall pass”  an adage to remind us that this storm is temporary.

What is your way of finding calm?





This is a fact of life is it not? When we were younger we waited to become a teenager, then to get the driver’s license, then to turn a legal 21, then to find the right career, partner, first house, to have a family, to get the big promotion, also  waiting in line at the grocery store or the DVM. Even the grapes in the crate above are waiting to be processed into delicious wine! Waiting escapes no one!

Sometimes, the waiting we experience throughout our lives can turn to frustration or even disappointment, especially if we have been waiting a long time for a certain event and the outcome isn’t what we expected or wanted. So, let’s consider an alternative to the feeling of continually waiting…..patience. As my dear mother use to say to me (and often): patience is a virtue!

Patience doesn’t mean that we become powerless and give up, rather, it can be empowering in that we wait, observe and determine when and how to act. One author, Judith Orloff, M.D.  in her article The Power of Patience (September, 2012)  presents the idea of patience as a “form of compassion, a re-attuning to intuition, a way to emotionally redeem your center in a world filled with frustration”.  She further says that she is defining patience as an “active state, a choice to hold tight until intuition says….make your move. It means waiting your turn, knowing your turn will come.”

Easier said than done sometimes, right? However, in life timing is everything and that means you have to ‘wait’ till the correct opportunity presents itself, trusting that the ‘wait’ will be worth it. The key word….trusting the wait.

“Adopt the pace of nature; her secret is patience”  Ralph Waldo Emerson.