As you can note from one of my flower garden pictures, some are perennials and others are annuals. Perennials are forever (at least we plan that they will be), and annuals go away, but you can replace them next year. So be it, as it is in life.

Turning points in our lives are so salient and how we end and start new chapters is just as salient. Moments that we will never forget, like a ‘perennial’. Yet some, we work at forgetting and reach that level of hope that we will never have to experience them again, maybe replacing them with new ‘annuals’.  Then we glance over our shoulder, move on, and start writing the new chapter, scripting new paths and building our perennials, wanting to get it ‘right’ this time.

However, we learn from annuals…….how much sun and water, how deep to plant, or when in the season to let them go and put something more hardy in its place. So true also about things in life; we have to let go, accept, and build anew. It takes wisdom to know which things, their level of positive or negative, and when to accept ‘it is not something that was supposed to be’. Then purposefully move on, with the operative word being purposefully. That is our challenge whether it be regarding a job, a relationship, an illness, a past hurt, a personal behavior or a way of thinking.

Two of my favorite quotes:  John F. Kennedy: “Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.”

Helen Keller: “True happiness is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity  to a worthy purpose.”



A lighthouse near the banks of the shore or at sea is the guiding light to bring ships to safe harbor, amidst rushing waters, reefs, or other dangers that are in the path of safety. Before lighthouses, our ancestors built fires high up on the hills to guide the ships, warning of dangers, guiding those at sea.

So it is with fathers or the important people in our lives whose role it is to be our father figure. Sometimes, they don’t show up when we are born, but may present themselves later in our lives, biological fathers or maybe not.  Sometimes, the going may be rough until that father figure appears. Sometimes, they may disappoint us deeply, but they are still our father. We may have to grow to the age of being able to forgive.

These figures are the guiding light to help us on our life path, to warn us of dangers, to show us a safer road, to help us avoid the pitfalls that could crush us, to hold us up when we fall. They can be our superhero’s one day and the next week the strictest person of discipline we have ever encountered. One day we may admire them as our role model and the next week we might wish we had our best friend’s father. Through it all, the one we call ‘father’ in our life is human and will make mistakes; yet, he means only the best for us and will go above and beyond to bring PURPOSE, JOY and POSITIVES into our lives. He is only a man, with his own limitations and skills. And sometimes, it takes us a long long time before we can acknowledge his  role in our lives……maybe not until one day when we become a father.

To each of you who are fathers, father figures, step fathers, grandfathers, foster fathers: May you have a wonderful day of celebrating you, counting your blessings and knowing that you are appreciated and loved. As a father, you may never know how many children you influence, just by your actions and your commitments. You may never know how many lives you touch.

This quote reflects my father. “My father didn’t tell me how to live: he lived, and let me watch him do it”  (Clarence B. Kelland).




In these days of uncertainty, sheltering at home, and the unusual ways we are spending our days, I often find myself searching.
My heart and mind are searching for understanding, for real truth, for comfort, and for something deep inside I can’t put a name to. I don’t know what it is, but I can sense it and feel it.

This morning in one of my prayer group meditations, this attachment was waiting for me. As listened, it brought tears to my eyes but some sense of joy to my heart. I share it with you and hope that you will also feel a sense of calm and joy.



It is one rainy, sunless, damp unsettling day with little motivation in my heart! That was my sentiment at eight o’clock, noon, and I find it still lurking around the corner of my day at four o’clock. So, I decided to write and share.

First, looking at the picture of a plaque my sister gave me years ago, I see that this day was supposed to be just like this. It could be no other way.  Last week, I was quite productive in organizing, accomplishing and re-settling in my home, a contented feeling most of the week. Maybe then I  needed to experience this type of day to more fully appreciate the better days/weeks. So, today is today and that does not mean it will be more of the same tomorrow. I can chose and orchestrate tomorrow!

Second, this is just plain a very weird time in life with experiences that are new to most of us, unless you are in your nineties and survived WW II.  If you are in that group and are reading my blog, I congratulate and thank you for your contributions during that unbelievable period of history. My father, no longer here on earth, was a WW II survivor, but he never talked about most of his experiences. As I have become more interested in that time period by reading about it and watching films, I am sure my father held much closely in his heart.

Those things being said, I want to share with you a quote that was in one of my emails the other day from a company I have used. The quote is from Jean Paul Sartre who lived during the WW II period in Paris, a French philosopher. He said: “Look back, look forth, look close, there may be more prosperous times, more intelligent times, more spiritual times, more magical times, and more happy times, but this one, this small moment in the history of the universe, this is ours. And let’s do everything with it. Everything.”

This pandemic is in our time; we are living it; we are constrained by it; some days we are consumed by the news of it; we are learning from it; we are praying for an end to it; we are pinning our faith on better times. This too will become part of history, part of the fabric of our lives; we do not have a choice in that matter. But we can do ‘everything’ with it today and tomorrow. What is your ‘everything’ you will do?




In the last few months due to the pandemic,  I am sure we have all experienced a little bit of both the above. We are alone much of the time as we social distance and at times this may induce the feeling of being lonely. During this time, it is so important to take good care of not only our physical, but also our emotional and spiritual health.

When things in life change so rapidly and so counter to the life we knew and understood how to navigate, it can be overwhelming. Yes, overwhelming to the point that we really have to work at lifting our spirits, even if we are by nature a positive, joy filled  person. It is important to take those feelings, bless them for what they are (they are real),  let  them simmer in our minds, and then give way to a different place in our thinking/feeling. As with most feelings brought about by unwelcome changes, they will be temporary. Temporary can be defined on a time line differently by everyone. But we do make our own ‘temporary’. We get to chose.

As I have walked this journey in my own life, I know that I can still thank the Lord every morning and night for the gifts and the graces I have been given, have not lost, and wish to pass on to others. Maybe it is just a phone call, a long overdue handwritten note, a ‘hello’ text, the sending of a small gift or dropping something at a friend’s front door that I can do today. I have always found that when I do things for others, my own emotional being  feels better.

May you chose to use your alone or lonely to lift someone else up, especially now during this unprecedented journey we all are living.






Life can be full of decisions, choices and of course consequences! So often we have to decide to stay the course or create a new path…….whether it involves friendships, family, jobs, health or relationships. It ‘s like taxes: you have to pay your dues!

The good part about the decisions and choices is that they give us new opportunities to write a different story……not one involving the past, but the creation of a new life story. Sometimes, it seems like an endless process doesn’t it and the older I get, the more I am trying to focus on the process, not the destination.

What is interesting is that there are times you start the first chapter of this new story thinking you will go in a certain direction; then something pops up, like a rock or a mud puddle,  that you sort of stumble on or through, and everything changes! Really?? And now what you say?? Well, truth is these path changes will be what we chose to make of them…….either they will push us to a new comfort zone or pull us backward. The choice is always within us. We have the power! Others can tell us what they think or what we ought to do, but ultimately it comes down to our own personal discovery through the choice.

Abraham Lincoln said : “The best way to predict your future is to create it”. So, I say be proactive, control your thinking to lead you to the most desirable future you can envision. When that future moves from a present reality to the past, it will be time to recreate, once again a process which can evolve into a new most desirable future. That is the beauty of life…… just keeps evolving!

Happy creating your new script!




As we walk this path of life, sometimes we will be in the sunshine of good times and all is going well. Other times, we may be in the shade; maybe we are resting or maybe we are not able to find our way back to the sun because something is blocking our vision. Is it an actual obstacle or just our perception that it is blocking our moving forward?

Who is on your journey with you? Sometimes, we find ourselves in front of our journey partner and sometimes we are behind. We might have to slow our pace and allow them to get to where we are. Or perhaps, we have to work on ourselves to catch up. It isn’t a race or a competition; no, it is a journey of collaboration by design… be truly with and present to the journey. This will be the heart of our story.

On my journey in 2020, I have chosen the word GRACE to accompany and guide me. It is interesting that after much thought in searching and choosing this word, nearly every day at least once it comes up in something that I read! One of the things I want to experience is to acknowledge and use the graces I am given each day to the best of my ability.

How is your 2020 journey thus far?




Here we go……new days, new weeks, new months, new year AND a new decade!!

Where were you last year at this time mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually?  How did you progress into and end the year 2019 in these areas?

What did you let go of last year  that was toxic in your  life or no longer was positively purposeful?

What did you accomplish that you planned or what was achieved that you did not plan?

Did you take a new path at a cross road on your life journey?

These are just some of the questions that we ask ourselves as we contemplate stepping out of the comfort of 2019 and into the unknowns of 2020.

When it is all said and done, we all have the positives and the negatives that we remember from 2019. Being grateful for both, and the silver linings that emerged from even the negatives, should be a part of our reflections. Sometimes, yes, we do have to search for those silver linings, but they are there.

Happy 2020 to each of you and Blessings for a healthy, peaceful and life filled with your purpose and joy.




It is only 10 short days until we celebrate the Birth of Our Lord, the culmination of the Advent Season of preparing and waiting. In our faith, Advent is the beginning of the “New Liturgical Year”.  I have noted that each message during the homily this Advent is centered around HOPE, which is deeply encouraging, given the state of our world, some things in our personal lives and the various shifts in life many of us may be experiencing. The message has been that HOPE is a gift in our lives, one to be used and experienced, not only for ourselves but in ways to serve others, building them up and encouraging them. As I thought about this, I decided to reach out to someone that I thought could use encouragement and HOPE. There was not a response, but I HOPE that the message may  have helped in some way.

When I think of HOPE, I think of possibilities,  of new beginnings,  and the letting go of cumbersome worries, among just a few of the thoughts. I believe that it is HOPE that keeps up moving forward and not mired in the ‘downs’ or challenges we face. If we have HOPE, we have everything! It is not over; it is going to come to fruition, in the way that has been chosen for us by HIM. On December 25, the waiting and preparing, each in our own spiritual way, will come to fruition as Our Lord will arrive once again to bring us HOPE…..for us, our families, our lives, and our world.

Continue on in your preparations for the coming of the greatest HOPE there is.