Yes, that date is correct! The picture is compliments of my daughter who captured this last spring snow and declared ‘Expect the Unexpected’!

This reminds me of Murphy’s Law: ‘If anything can go wrong, it will’. Just for a little history, Edward J. Murphy was a real person who was a Major in the Air Force in the 1940’s, working as an engineer testing experimental designs; I guess he often experienced unplanned results.

Ultimately, things in our lives do go awry from time to time. That is life and we are human. It is easy to push the panic button when things start to fall apart, but that doesn’t really help the matter at hand. Here is what I have trained myself to do in these situations.

Once I realize that I am moving toward exasperation, I take three deep breaths and list several catastrophic end results that could happen. After another three deep breaths, it’s thank you because these did not happen. Now, I focus on how to straighten the mess out, giving myself three choices; choosing one, acting on it, and reminding myself that this COULD have been a lot worse and THIS is definitely not the end of the world. So, much for expecting the unexpected.

I must admit that my method did not develop overnight, and it took me a few years in life to learn to use this approach. Try it for yourself and maybe it will work for you too.

Claire Cook, American author and speaker, stated “If plan A doesn’t work, the alphabet has 25 more letters!”  Now this is encouraging, right?




A week ago, we celebrated Easter, only after the solemnity of Good Friday, the Christian Holy Day commemorating the crucifixion of our Lord.  Then He rose on Easter Sunday so that we could have new life. It is a Blessed Day that brings us Hope and Joy to our hearts forever, a renewal of our spirit and souls.

We as people do need this renewal of our spirit for there are dark days; we do experience human suffering, and there are many things within our culture that bring about concern. The Resurrection is our Hope, our Way and our Life that help us to walk through our humanness with faith. It is faith that keeps us in the present moment, knowing that is right where we are supposed to be; it is faith that gives us deep understanding of our past, and it is faith that instills in us confidence in the future.

May we continue to experience this hope and faith in renewal of our spirit and lives.




April 14, 2019, Palm Sunday, and 5 inches of new, wet, drenching SNOW!!! Surprise! It is not really spring yet here in the Midwest!

Isn’t that the way life can be also? Things are just going along, one day at a time, nothing too earth shattering and then boom……..a surprise awaits you! In an instant, life presents a new challenge that must be dealt with, wrestled with, and a solution found!

Options are always available for the choosing. One can ignore the issue, meet it head on, or dance around it for awhile. For sure, it is probably not going to disappear on its own, without some amount of work on our part. I have found that ignoring the issue never really works for me, and sometimes it just makes it worse in the end. I will admit though that sometimes I dance around an issue, going back and forth, until I walk up to it, grab it and solve it.

A new book by Tania Luna and Leeann Renninger, Surprise: Embrace the Unpredictable and Engineer the Unexpected, suggest that “surprise, whether good or bad, is important for bringing vitality to our lives. Surprise works on the dopamine system in our brains, helping us to focus our attention and inspiring us to look at our situation in new ways.”

The authors talk about the four stages of the surprise response: freeze (stopped in our tracks), find (trying to understand what is going on), shift (perspective adjusting), and share (with others).  In essence, Luna and Renninger support the idea that surprise can foster “curiosity, wonder, connection, vulnerability, growth and creativity” through embracing and engineering the surprise, negative or positive. I like this idea!

How’s your life…….any surprises?





Yesterday morning I took 30 minutes at the beginning of my day and sat in silence listening to at least 4 different types of birds chirping, including my favorite, the mourning dove. I could hear the trickle of some water running somewhere fairly near, the leaves rustling in the  slight breeze,  and a little animal scampering along the pavement. This not my normal routine and I often find it difficult to just ‘sit’ for any length of time. Always something to do!

Certainly the idea is not a novel one to me but I have been doing some reading on the benefits of ‘first morning silence’. Noise is abundant in our lives everyday from dawn to dusk…….T.V.’s, I Pads, I Pods, phones, emails,  text messages, Facebook, Instagram, and many other things that clutter our immediate world. It can almost be overwhelming. This seems to be especially so when you are trying to think something through or you are experiencing ‘burnout’….of something or everything!

Here are the eight benefits of silence and solitude as quoted in Outreach magazine, written by Charles Stone (July 26, 2018, the senior Pastor of West Park Church in London, Ontario, Canada and  the founder of StoneWell Ministries).

  • “It breaks the power of hurry, our addiction to a ‘have-to-do-this’ mentality.
  • It helps renew our souls.
  • It reminds us that life will still go on without us.
  • It clears the storm of life and mind for wise decision – making and planning.
  • It creates inner space to hear the voice of God.
  • It allows us to disconnect from the world and deeply connect with our soul.
  • It helps us control our tongue.
  • It helps us with the other disciplines.”

At the end of my first 30 minute trial, I felt a  calm sense of well – being. It will become a new part of my morning routine. It is most definitely worth letting go of those 30 minutes. More to come……..







Spring is a wonderful time of the year and brings with it that renewed commitment to purge our house, deep clean, organize, lose the last few pounds and get outside! For me, the beginning of spring sparks these for sure, but it also triggers reflection for me. It was during a spring that I lost two of the most important people in my life. In some ways, it seems like yesterday, and yet somehow it feels like a very long, long time.

As I told a recent widow that I just happened to meet on the path of life, grief never really leaves, but it changes multiple times over the years and you will grow with it. It is a process and you can design the process however you wish.  You can try to hang on tight to every memory, or you can slowly let go and savor in your heart of archives the most salient memories…… the ones that make you smile, the ones that are super special moments of fun, the ones that help you to breathe in new life, the ones that are ‘aha’ moments that now make sense, and save a few that you are just not ready to let go of. You will go back time and time again over the years and review what you will keep. The others you will put in a box, seal it, and let it go. With that letting go, I have found a new sense of peace and in many ways a new outlook on life. It is a process that you live with, in and through until you find your core strength and center again. And you will!

This quote comes from John Green, The Fault in Our Stars, “Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.”

What will you find during this process as ‘you’ are revealed?




Today, Ash Wednesday, marks the beginning of lent for many Christians around the world. It is a season of 40 days for penance, fasting and giving. It is a  time for reflection and searching one’s inner being for faith-based improvement and giving to others.

A few days prior to the beginning of Lent each year,  I find myself in search of to ‘give up and/or to give to’. In my more mature years, I have come to believe that both are very important. Not only do I need to ‘give up certain things, but I also need to give to’.  My give up  this year is about stopping my conversation around specific events in my life.  This conversation really serves no greater purpose in my life or anyone else’s. So, I’m giving up that ‘talk’.

As for ‘giving to’, I am determining what charitable contribution, even though it may be small, might best benefit others in my community. Perhaps, it will be to a shelter in the area or another entity that serves those in need.

As a young person many years ago, it was deemed that ‘giving up’ was best practice  for Lent.   Growth in both my faith and in my life have helped me to understand that ‘giving to’ can be equally as important and looked upon favorably.

Blessings to each of you during this Lenten season.






I believe that this is an appropriate  post for the day……

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy; It does not boast; It is not proud. It does not dishonor others; It is not self-seeking; It is not easily angered; It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. LOVE NEVER FAILS.”


After this quote from the Bible, my favorite quote is from Leo Buscaglia:

“What love we’ve given, we’ll have forever. What love we fail to give, will be lost for all eternity.”

May you each have not only a loved filled day, but a love filled life with PURPOSE, JOY AND POSITIVES.