Spring is a wonderful time of the year and brings with it that renewed commitment to purge our house, deep clean, organize, lose the last few pounds and get outside! For me, the beginning of spring sparks these for sure, but it also triggers reflection for me. It was during a spring that I lost two of the most important people in my life. In some ways, it seems like yesterday, and yet somehow it feels like a very long, long time.

As I told a recent widow that I just happened to meet on the path of life, grief never really leaves, but it changes multiple times over the years and you will grow with it. It is a process and you can design the process however you wish.  You can try to hang on tight to every memory, or you can slowly let go and savor in your heart of archives the most salient memories……..save the ones that make you smile, the ones that are super special moments of fun, the ones that help you to breathe in new life, the ones that are ‘aha’ moments that now make sense, and save a few that you are just not ready to let go of. You will go back time and time again over the years and review what you will keep. The others you will put in a box, seal it, and let it go. With that letting go, I have found a new sense of peace and in many ways a new outlook on life. It is a process that you live with, in and through until you find your core strength and center again. And you will!

This quote comes from John Green, The Fault in Our Stars, “Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.”

What will you find during this process as ‘you’ are revealed?



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